Not surprisingly, feelings of anxiety, worry and depression are very common nowadays. There are those who even find it hard to get through the day without feelings of worry: "I worry all the time about everything. Even though there are no signs of problems, I just feel very sad. I can’t concentrate at my work and have a hard time falling asleep at night. I also feel angry at some people in my family all the time.”
It is no secret that there are always things to worry about like job, bills, health, relationships, relatives, children and so on. It is ok to worry about these basic things from time to time and take care of them because these things are essential and necessary to our survival. However, when worrying dominates our life it can lead to anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts and turn someone’s life into a nightmare.
Here are some symptoms that anxious thoughts can lead to:
- Low self-esteem
- Inability to sleep (insomnia) or interrupted sleep.
- Change in appetite (loss of appetite or overeating)
- Inability to control emotions and having more pessimistic thoughts and an increase in anger, guilt, irritability, and anxiety.
- Inability to experience joy and happiness
- Poor concentration and reduced motivation
- Low / decreased energy levels
Why do we think it is important to worry about something? Most of the time worrying helps us to think about a potential outcome and be prepared for it. However, the problem with this approach is that all we can think about is the potential negative scenario.
Some may even notice that we live in "the world of mirrors" onto which we very often project feelings or emotions that create our reality by reflecting it back to us. According to quantum physics theory, everything in the universe is an infinite field vibrating consequentially. Everything consists of the electron field where electrons and other particles that have localized vibrations in the field. The entire universe is made of fields playing a vast, subatomic symphony. The same vibration process applies to a human auric field when it comes to experiencing a range of emotions.
This wisdom has been known since ancient times; very often, when you focus on something you don’t want, you will get what you don’t want. The reality will respond to your focus, and whatever you are focusing on will become part of your reality, whether you want it or not. No thought, no word, no action goes unnoticed and whatever we project into our lives becomes our reality.
However, this may not be the case in certain situations. Sometimes destiny is “written in stars” and certain catastrophes tend to happen. Such events are not our fault since they happen often around the world and are solely based on external events. What life brings is not important as our personal reaction to these misfortunes.
Bad HabitsBy constantly thinking about the negative outcome, it would not be pushed out of our life and become a habit that is hard to get rid of. We constantly worry about something that might happen to us to justify and validate being worried. But in reality, it could be just a product of our own thinking. Moreover, thoughts of worry are an intense focus on unwanted life scenarios. As a result, we end up with constant feelings of anxiety and depression. Whether you had a bad day or are stressed out about your life, finances or loved ones, these types of emotions come from the negative emotions spectrum.
Focusing on a problem feels different from focusing on a solution. We are so focused on negative things in life and feel powerless that we tend to spend time focusing on the negative outcome because it probably won’t hurt so bad when it becomes a reality. We tend to think that worry is beneficial to us because we can be prepared for all possible negative scenarios and avoid them. However, by living and constantly thinking negative thoughts, we actually create our own reality and feel totally helpless. By thinking in a negative light, we also fail to listen to our inner emotional and spiritual guidance.
With worry, it will be harder to focus on a solution if you are solely focused on a problem instead. This is the reason why worrying never feels good and never leads to what we hope it will lead to — a solution. Those who worry all the time are experiencing constant pain as a result of a potential future problem that is impossible to avoid that they have to prepare for. They believe that no matter what things they foresee in the future, it is inevitable.
For example, let’s think about someone who has a terminal illness they think they can’t recover from. If a person constantly fears and thinks that there is no hope for their situation, they are going to create their own reality instead of focusing on a solution to the problem. People who worry will spend all their life never feeling safe, never experience joy or happiness. It may lead to the conclusion that death is more beneficial because they will be prepared for the worst case scenario rather than having a life full of stress or anxiety. They will think of death as a much better option than to be aligned with the truth. They are so focused on the worst case scenario that this is the only scenario they can perceive.
Focusing on the worst case scenario will distort their reality, prevent them from seeing a true reality, and will make the present moment as "non-existent".
How to stop worrying
- Start to observe your thoughts and feelings. Don’t try to block or control them, but simply detect them and observe where they come from, what they develop into, etc. Acknowledge that these thoughts are the reason you are feeling sad all the time.
- Realize that thinking and feeling you own anxious thoughts don't bring any good into your life. Learn how to quiet your mind and make it calm and still. By stopping the flow of negative thoughts, it is easier to pay less attention to the unwanted thoughts. Ask yourself, how your life looks like without the sad or angry thoughts? Make a list of those sad thoughts that are in your head all the time.
- Evaluate the current situation and turn your worry into productive thoughts. For example, instead of constantly worrying about being late, think of the steps of how to fix this problem. Make a list of steps of how you are going to do it. These steps will help to navigate you from the problem to a solution.
- Do you tend to imagine worst case scenarios often? Is the problem you are thinking about just a part of your imagination or is it your own conclusion based on anxious thoughts? If so, then this could not be a problem at all but only an assumption. In this case, try to live in the present moment. Try not to project this assumption into the future because it will only make things worse. A feeling of uncertainty is much better than thinking about the worst case scenario that may keep you awake at night. Realize that it is not possible to do everything right.
- Do you worry often what others think? In this case, focus all of your attention on understanding them. What makes them worry about certain things? Take a look at them as an outside observer, not as a vulnerable human being or a victim. Try to see it from the big picture perspective.
- Realize that our life is not all about getting the desired results, but simply enjoying the process. This will put your worries at ease. When people take a walk in a park, they don’t think about reaching the end of the road quickly, but instead, they want to enjoy the walk. Try to think about the good things instead of the bad.
- Meditation and prayer are a good way to stop anxious thoughts. Prayer will bring peace and better understanding about specific situations. If you are a believer and you have feelings of worry all the time, that means you are not fully trusting that higher power works in your life.
Only worry about the things you can change.
The Law of Attraction: Only Worry About the Things you Can Change
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